Introversion as an Excuse

Art of Manliness has put out a good post about extroverts and introverts. Click the link and give it a read!



The Ocean – A Mighty Soul

Earlier this month I was in the Maritime provinces of Canada. I visited the ocean at different locations several times and each time the scenery was stunning and the ocean was mesmerizing. The ocean I am used to is nothing like the Atlantic Ocean that I saw. Standing there, burying my feet in the sand or sitting on the huge rocks, while keeping a watchful eye on the blue waves crash up against the rocks and the sandy beaches affected me mentally and emotionally. It made me think of all the people who have sailed successfully across and what life they led once they reached their destination. I thought more about the people who were shipwrecked and lost at sea. Their adventure was cut short, and now their bodies are just sitting at the bottom of the ocean. It is a bit gruesome to think about it, but at the same time very intriguing. I thought of who I am and who I want to be, my loved ones, what the future holds for me. It made me think if God can create such a powerful thing, then He is far more supreme then we can imagine. The ocean makes you feel like a free spirit and almost limitless to what you can do. Being there with the wind and the waves puts you in a trance that you don’t want to come out of. Coming back down to real life is a bit difficult.

The ocean has its own mind and spirit, its own entity and it’s unpredictable. We could not interfere with it, even if we tried. L.M. Montgomery puts it perfectly, “the sea is a mighty soul, forever moaning of some great, unshareable sorrow, which shuts it up into itself for all eternity. We can never pierce its infinite mystery – we may only wander, awed and spell-bound, on the outer fringe of it. The woods call to us in one hundred voices, but the sea has one only – a mighty voice that drowns our souls in its majestic music”.

For the Men: Appreciate Austen in your Quest for Fair Lady

I read this great blog post today by Damsel! Also go check out her blog, its fantastic!

A Rose Amid Thorns

The other evening I was conversing with ConvertKat at a social event. Topics naturally changing, it turned to literature, and – to my somewhat surprise – switching from his own conversation to ours was SearchingGuy. SearchingGuy and I are not friends, in fact I barely know him, except from a couple conversations during Sunday Coffee hour. SearchingGuy somewhat interjected and asked abruptly what literature I read. When I replied “classics, mostly”, CatechumanGuy joined the conversation as well. We talked on for a few minutes, and in a natural conversation pause, they both turned to me and pointedly asked “but really, what do you read?” I replied again, “mostly classics, Thomas Hardy at the moment.” SearchingGuy responded with an “ugh, that means you read Jane Austen” and CatechumanGuy chuckled with an affirmative comment I don’t remember. “Whoa! Do I hear tones of condescension?” I asked, in a somewhat louder and probably…

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Character Analysis: Belle

Belle, the heroine of the wonderful story we all know and love: Beauty and the Beast. Let’s examine Belle’s character traits: adventurous, opinionated, feminine, caring, kind, tender, loving, virtuous, intelligent, confident, open-minded and last but certainly not least, an extrovert. As you can see, Belle is quite the model woman.

Belle is adventurous, intelligent, and open-minded. She is constantly reading which shows she wants to know what is beyond the walls of her little village. She longs for a life that is not the “provincial life” that she is leading thus far. Books and Belle’s imagination are her outlet to the world until she is able to leave and see everything with her own eyes. Reading also enhances one’s vocabulary and knowledge of many subjects.

Belle is also caring, tender, loving, and overall a virtuous young woman. She loves her widowed father Maurice very dearly. She encourages him to persevere in his inventions even though the rest of the town thinks he is just crazy. She takes care of him and the small house they live in. In order to protect him, she sacrifices herself as the Beasts prisoner. Belle gives up on all her dreams to save Maurice from rotting away in a deep dark dungeon. If this doesn’t show such love for her father, I am not sure what does. After the Beast saves Belle’s life she saw past his mean and ugly front and saw a creature in need of help,so she took him back to the castle to nurse his injuries. All her interactions with the staff of the castle are very pleasant, and Belle never has an unkind word to say to them.

Belle is a very confident woman. First, she does not really care about the villagers opinion of her because she is comfortable in her own skin. Gaston, the pompous and boorish man of the town, thinks he could get any woman in the village but chooses Belle because she is the most beautiful. However, Belle has standards that Gaston does not reach.  She is confident enough to keep those standards and to turn his advances and marriage proposal down.

With all these traits we can see that Belle is one of many virtuous extroverted heroines. Now the cartoon embodies all of Belle’s best qualities, I find that Belle in the new live-action movie starring Emma Watson, does not.

First, Belle’s big personality really comes out in her singing voice. It is clear, strong, and confident sounding. Emma Watson’s voice was just not enough for the part. I found it too weak for such a strong, feminine character. Next we have the scene where Belle is cleaning the Beast’s wounds. In the live-action the Beast and Belle argue about how the situation could have been avoided. Instead of continuing to help the Beast, Belle gets annoyed and walks away. With Belle’s tender and loving nature, she never would have walked away from someone who was in need of assistance. Even if the Beast was being difficult Belle wouldn’t have allowed it to get to her. Emma Watson put a feminist  attitude into Belle’s character. Belle is not a feminist. She is virtuous, feminINE, and has a mind of her own. Yes, some would think that is what makes up a feminist, but it does not. I believe that Watson did not bring enough virtue and femininity to the character. Belle’s wardrobe in the newest version of the story was also not great. Watson refused to wear a corset for the part because of her feminist opinions. Even though women in the 1700’s wore corsets, so it would have been historically appropriate to dress for the time of the story. Belle’s dress was constantly tucked up in her bloomers, with her bloomers showing, and looked somewhat thrown together. Sure it seems like a small detail but it takes away from her feminine side. As a woman, Belle should try to look her best even with the simple clothing she possessed. Also it was simply annoying and not with the times.

With that, I find I am similar to Belle. We share some of the same extroverted qualities. I am sure there are many extroverted people who can identify with the beautiful, confident, and loving Belle.

“Have courage and be kind”

“There is a vast multitude of women in this country marching toward a precipice of ruin, and it is a mystery to know what to do to arrest their downward progress. Many of them have no religion, and, though a man without religion is dangerous to society, a woman who is destitute of it is prone to be a monster.” – Thomas Foley, Bishop of Chicago, 1877 A.D.

Since World War 1 and the Roaring Twenties, we have seen an incline in feminism. Women fought for their rights and to be equal as men. However, women have taken feminism so far as to hate men entirely. These days it is very hard to find women who possess virtue. Religion has been cast aside, forgotten, and laughed at. But just as Bishop Thomas Foley says a woman without religion is “prone to be a monster”. I see this in life quite frequently. With women not wanting to wear flattering and pretty clothes that don’t show off every single little curve on their bodies, or wanting the right to do whatever they want with their body simply because it is their body, or wanting to do everything a man can do. Yes, you can lift up a box and carry it to your car, but why would you if a man has stepped up and offered to do it for you? This does not display the beauty of a woman. There are distinct features of woman that we should be proud of.  The true beauty of woman can be told by the virtues she possesses. When a woman is virtuous she is attractive and not only physically.

We live in a free for all world where you can what you want whenever you want. Most people will turn a blind eye because “well it may be wrong for me, but for you it might be fine”. Can we just slap relativism in the face please? If it is intrinsically evil, then no matter who does it for whatever circumstance…it is wrong. I have found that most feminists think they can have every privilege, even if they haven’t earned it. They want equality, but women are equal to men. We are in the work force, vote, and even have our own private sections at the gym. Yes, we live in a man’s world but that will never change. Adam was created first and put in charge of protecting and providing for Eve. Instead women are marching wearing offensive costumes, and reenacting abortions dressed as the Virgin Mary. None of these women possess virtue, for if they did they wouldn’t be out on the streets wreaking havoc because a man was voted for president.

Trying to be more kind, humble, and giving are only a few attributes women should strive for. Women who have a sense of propriety and a love for that which is good should not be suppressed, but praised. In Kenneth Branagh’s adaptation of ‘Cinderella’, Cinderella has a motto “have courage and be kind”that she learns from her mother. She is kind to everyone, including the evil Lady Tremaine who treats her horribly. However, the step-mother hates Cinderella because Cinderella is sweet, innocent, and good. Anyone who strives for goodness will be persecuted, but for a woman to be able to withstand the tormenting grows in virtue. The monster in ‘Cinderella’ is Lady Tremaine, for she does not practice kindness at all.

The destruction is women leads to so many other problems, such as Peter Pan syndrome. But alas, that is for a blog post all on its own. You are going to fail, but do not be discouraged girls, you can do it!

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Walking in Someone Else’s Shoes

Dear Reader,

A few days ago I went into the big city that is closest to where I live. There I went into a vintage store! All articles of clothing, jewelry, buttons, and shoes all belonged to the  early to mid 1900’s. As a lover of that era, you can imagine the delight that entered my heart as I stepped inside the store. I flipped through beautiful skirts and dresses, and did they ever know how to dress back then! Not finding anything that fit, I spotted a pair of 1940s burgundy heels with a small buckle to secure my foot inside. They were just my size and adorable so I just had to try them on. They were a perfect fit!

Later on I was thinking about who wore those shoes before me.Who else’s foot fit perfectly into the heels? Who was the woman whose shoes I now own? Was she a rich woman, or did her beau buy them for her with the little bit of spending money he had? Did she walk the streets of Paris at night with all the lights glowing around her? Did she go dancing in those shoes? I found it fun to go back in the past and think of all the things that woman could or would have done while wearing those shoes. I also felt a sense of longing to live in that era.

Now I have the enjoyment of wearing those 1940s heels. And one day if I don’t own them anymore and another girl has them in her closet, she may wonder the same thing as I have.



“Patience you must have my young Padawan”

As an extrovert patience is one of the hardest virtues to practice! I can’t speak for introverts but I think it is safe to say that patience is hard for extroverts. Most extroverts don’t sit back and wait for life to happen, we go out and seek what the world has in store for us. But sometimes when we really want something in life, and it isn’t something we can just go get, we have to wait. This waiting period is very difficult. An example of this is God’s will for you and what your purpose in life is (ie. vocation).

As we all know God doesn’t serve His will on a silver platter, we have to pray that we do God’s will and that we do it right. However when we want to get married and there just aren’t any prospects around, or you really want to join the convent or seminary but you just aren’t able to yet, having the patience to wait for that to happen can sometimes be the biggest cross you carry. Seriously though if God could just come down and point out who we are going to marry or what career we need to choose, that would be great! Think of how much easier life could be! But since that is not how it is we have to work towards our vocation. We need to have strength and patience to be able to carry our cross and fulfill what you must.

Patience also helps you have hope that your prayers will be answered. Don’t stop praying because you think God is ignoring you, keep going because you will eventually be answered even if it is not the way you want Him to answer. When you see something that can or will happen, but you have absolutely no control on making it happen, have hope that God knows the path you must take in order to get to that point. Do not despair that He has abandoned you, or think He has steered you in the wrong direction because it simply is not true! Our Lord will only give you what you can handle. If He didn’t think you would have the strength to persevere you wouldn’t be carrying that cross. Be patient with God’s plan and the crosses He permits you to carry, and you will have renewed strength to go on.


Pew Etiquette

When you walk into a church for Mass, you think you can just sit anywhere you feel like it. Well, you have another thing coming. Here are some points on pew etiquette:

  1. If you are a single person, or you just happen to be at Mass alone, and the Church is filling up quickly do not go and sit in a large pew. Pick a smaller pew on the side or rather sit in a pew that a few others have started to occupy.
  2. Almost every family has the pew they sit in every single Sunday. Do not go and sit in their pew before they arrive. This can cause a family to have to split up which means they won’t all be able to sit together.
  3. If it is your first time at a parish and you happen to sit in a pew or an area that a large family sits in you will be excused for sitting there. However, if you continue on at the parish and you simply refuse to take note that a particular family always sits there and you are taking up space, they will encircle you to try and push you out. Families like to sit together. It may be the only time of the week where they can all be together so do not, I repeat, do not be stubborn at obtaining a spot that has already been claimed.
  4. If there is a family with little children/a baby, and you happen to see an empty spot in the middle of the pew do not go and try to sit there. You will just be in the way. The parents may have to climb over you take the kids to the back if they are misbehaving, or need a diaper change.
  5. Lets say you go into the church for adoration and to do a holy hour. The church is empty so you can sit in any spot your heart desires. You kneel down and a few minutes later you hear the church door open. No big deal, another person just trying to be holy. Since the entire church is empty one would think that the person who walked in would go sit on the opposite side of the church…far away from  you. But no, they have to sit in the pew directly behind you! WHY?!  Don’t people want their space while they are doing a holy hour? Even if you don’t follow any of the other rules, please follow this one! No one likes it when you do this. Seriously though…DON’T!
  6. If you have sat down in the corner of a pew and someone comes up and also wants to sit in that pew, don’t make them climb over you, just move over.
  7. If you are at Easter Vigil and the first few pews say ‘Reserved’, don’t even think about trying to sit there. Clearly someone is going to become a Catholic and their family is going to want to be right there when it happens.

So the next time you walk into a church think more carefully of which pew you choose. Pew etiquette is a big deal, do not take it lightly.

Seeing the Good and Innocent

Before you read this, please note if you disagree with my opinions in this post do not comment or argue your different point of view. That is not the purpose of this post.

This previous week I took part in some controversial debates over social media. I almost never do this because it is futile arguing a position over the internet, merely because no one listens to anyone. If you haven’t heard already the LGBT wants to make the character Elsa from Frozen a lesbian. As a Catholic I was arguing against it. The three people I was debating became so illogical in their arguments that it wasn’t even worth it for me to continue. I ended it on a friendly note with no hard feelings. When it ended it made me think that young people in the secular world just cannot think for themselves. They thought it would be wrong to not push the LGBT on little kids who know nothing of the world and its ways: to take their innocence away from them. They only say what the media tells them. They allow the world to dictate their beliefs and I am sad for them.

The second controversial conversation all over the media was about Harambe the gorilla being killed in order to save a four year old’s life. To save a four year old’s life! Sure it is too bad that they shot the gorilla, but what has horrified me is that many people are saying the mother of the child is a terrible mother and that her son should be taken away form her. “RIP Harambe” is what lots of people are saying. First of all, it is an animal with a mortal soul. I think the child’s life out weighs the gorilla’s, but apparently not everyone seems to think so. What is even worse is that thousands of babies are aborted and no one seems to care.

Both these things made me think there was no goodness or innocence in this world. I shouldn’t be shocked when I hear things like these because crazy things happen in the world, but every time I am. With all of this, I was driving to my second job in the late afternoon and as I was driving along I spotted a doe with her two fawns. They were so tiny and adorable that  I had to pull over and take a picture! But then one of the fawns hopped away from its mother, and walked right up to me! It did not even hesitate to come up to me. It trusted me instead of fearing me. Such an innocent creature with only a worry of staying close to its mother did not realize the potential danger he might have faced when walking right up to me. After a few seconds it jumped away across the street back to its mother. When I got back into the car my heart was melted! It made me think yes there is still innocence and goodness left and even though it may be hard to see it is right in front of us. We just need to know where to look. I immediately thanked God for allowing me to experience that. He reassured me to keep having hope for this twisted world.


“Just show her a little swing”

Swing dancing – the dance of the 1920s- 1940s. If you have do not know what swing dancing looks like watch this Hooked on Swing Dancing. It is as much fun as it looks, I know because I went! This past time was the third time ever going and there are no regrets. In fact, I hope to make it a regular hobby.

This is not the first time I have been exposed to dancing. I took tap class with on of my sisters for a year. That was a lot of fun. If you have ever wanted to dance like Gene Kelly, I highly recommend taking lessons…even if you are an adult. Dancing comes fairly easy to me, but even if you think you have two left feet you should still not give up. Swing is a loose type of dance. It is not like ballroom where you must have excellent posture and a little bit stiff (don’t get me wrong I love ballroom) but almost less structured, if you know what I mean. Anyways when I went I had a blast! Before the dance floor opens up there is a 45 minute lesson, and at the lesson we learned the Charleston (type of move/dance in swing).

Speaking for all the follows it might be hard to not look at your feet and mimic your lead. However, if you just let go and allow the lead to actually lead you, you will find it easier and much more fun! In other words don’t overthink it. Leave it up to the lead to decide where you go. That being said, leads, you need to tell us what you want us to not with words. I did dance with a couple of guys where I was thinking “um..what did you want me to do?”. But other leads I never had to guess, it just happened. When the lead is good, and the follow does what he wants, both parties will have a great time! If you have never tried swing dancing, or any dancing at all you should give it a shot.

For all you extroverts out there it is an enjoyable and sociable atmosphere. If you are reading this and you are an introvert and you want to work on getting out of your shell, then going out dancing will most certainly help you!